Thursday, March 10, 2011

Respect the Fire of Love

They were wrong. 

They told us that a relationship can endure on love alone. They told us that ideally we should be in love every moment of our life. They told us to follow our hearts.

The results of their misunderstanding are enormous; a fifty percent divorce rate is proof that they missed something crucial.

They failed.

They failed to mention that Love is fire. Like fire, it keeps jumping up then down, never staying in one position.  They failed to teach us that Loves fiery passion, the force that overcomes great distance to bring people together, will run out of steam as soon as it brings two people together. Because bringing strangers together is not only it's purpose but also it's motivator.

They failed to explain that when we don't feel the fire, we must commit to our beloved, not out of Love but out of respect. we must commit to our beloved who is a distinct person, with hopes, dreams, aspirations that may be different then ours. 

And, most importantly, they failed to assure us, that only when our heart feels that we respect the boundaries of our beloved, when it senses that we are two distinct beings that respect each other despite not being in love at this moment, only then does the fire hidden in our soul surge into a flame of passion.

(Based on my interpretation of lesson 2 of JLI's TML)

1 comment:

Simons Kingston said...

When I saw the title, I thought of the Ring of Fire refrencing the fault lines in the Pacific.
But perhaps you can use that as a title as well.