Hyper awareness

How is it that we are the most insensitive to the ones we love the most and are closest to?

Familiarity.

What is the antidote to familiarity? Hyper awareness.

When we read in Chassidus about hisbonenus, what we are trying to cultivate is an awareness to an alternate reality. One which demands that we consciously relate to it and not take it for granted. And this applies to Mitzvos, Berochos and relationships equally.